I never ever complain about work or stupid people who cause drama in my life, HOWEVER, it's been about 1 month now but mainly since Thursday i have been BULLIED at work...now now i am not the one to ever say i am bullied...hell no..but its been unbearable!! I'm talking down right gossip and female nonsense where i am the one who gets cornered in the back office and they play good cop bad cop and the cursing (oh my the cursing)...and the "i dont trust you" speech...yes i got that up until yesterday...my blood pressure has been sky high. Dont they understand i am having a BABY?! I have finished the Quarterly Report, monthly report,schedules, classes and even found a temp and trained her & giving her a portion of my SALARY! (which she seems to be VERY overwhelmed)
I don't want to make this post about my STRESSFUL job, mind you its not about my work load its about 2 females who have no life (one being my supervisor) but i'd rather post about the excitement we feel and such- BUT I CANT...
I feel robbed of that because of the stress i cant get out of the NEGATIVE mood i am in, plus my mom was going to visit before we leave and she has a medical condition which saddens me while we are away...its so hard to get happy and be excited when you have a B**CH on your back and all you want to do is quit but i cant show her she won....
I am thinking of doing a zen moment before we leave and get in the mind frame on the plane...is that too late to start being happy?
BABY AND SURROGATE NEWS- all is blessed..our surrogate is doing an AMAZING job and i cant thank her enough and the SCI staff, i want my baby to love me and tell me everything is ok. You think they can say that on day 1...hmmm, lol. CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL WHO HAVE WELCOMED THEIR BABIES...good luck to the 2WW crew and i empathize with those with a BFN, i have been there many times and can say with persistence here i am going for baby pick up..be kind, be gentle to yourselves and give yourself time...i didnt want to hear about time..but i'm glad i took a break for a year, and now we are broke and happy :)
next post from India!! stay tuned...any advice on work is always welcomed, im so close to quitting to keep my sanity, i hear babies can sense a stressed parent!!
I don't want to make this post about my STRESSFUL job, mind you its not about my work load its about 2 females who have no life (one being my supervisor) but i'd rather post about the excitement we feel and such- BUT I CANT...
I feel robbed of that because of the stress i cant get out of the NEGATIVE mood i am in, plus my mom was going to visit before we leave and she has a medical condition which saddens me while we are away...its so hard to get happy and be excited when you have a B**CH on your back and all you want to do is quit but i cant show her she won....
I am thinking of doing a zen moment before we leave and get in the mind frame on the plane...is that too late to start being happy?
BABY AND SURROGATE NEWS- all is blessed..our surrogate is doing an AMAZING job and i cant thank her enough and the SCI staff, i want my baby to love me and tell me everything is ok. You think they can say that on day 1...hmmm, lol. CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL WHO HAVE WELCOMED THEIR BABIES...good luck to the 2WW crew and i empathize with those with a BFN, i have been there many times and can say with persistence here i am going for baby pick up..be kind, be gentle to yourselves and give yourself time...i didnt want to hear about time..but i'm glad i took a break for a year, and now we are broke and happy :)
next post from India!! stay tuned...any advice on work is always welcomed, im so close to quitting to keep my sanity, i hear babies can sense a stressed parent!!
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Re work:
1.) Document everything. You may never do anything with it, but it's best to have it should you need it. If you have any emails, send a copy to your home account.
2.) Consider going over you supervisor and placing a complaint of hostile work environment. If it's not possible, then (tactfully) tell your supervisor that you feel it's a hostile work environment, and document everything (her response, dates, times, etc..)
I dealt with this from my old office and it was like pure poison. After letting them know I was using IVF and the stress was killing me, they "let me go". I really wish I had documented everything. Now when I file a complaint with the EEOC, it will mostly be my word against theirs.
On a lighter note: I feel SO MUCH BETTER now that I am out of that horrible environment. I still have awful stress every now and then when I think about it, but it does not constantly plaque me like it did when I was there.
Thanks for the info, i did document her but she took it all from my desk (HIDDEN!!) i left in the office one day...and she confronted me i was doing it behind her back and thats insubordination. She kept it! what am i to do, now?
Can you go to her superior and explain what happened? IME, the person will make you look bad so it's best to have your side of the story out for the record.
I make notes in a program called Evernote. It syncs to the Internet as well as back down to my other computers and phone - that way I never lose stuff. (I wish i had used it for my problem!) In the case of hard papers, I take a photo and save it to Evernote. It's been invaluable fort IVF stuff!
My advice (to get you in baby frame of mind) is to go find a gym and whack the crap out of a boxing bag. Put a picture of the bitches from work on it if that will help even more - lol!! Seriously, documenting is the way to go. And is looking for a new job when it's time to return.
And enough of that, you are so close to meeting your baby now it's fantastic. Hope the flight and the next week go very, very smoothly for you. And get ready for the big party Delhi always seems to be. Got some formal clothes packed?? :)
Lisa
xx
I too had issues with my workplace at a senior level in HR. It is overwhelmingly depressing andcauses huge anger. Your situation is awful and I wish it was different. I do think olding your baby for the first time will melt away this stress, if even for a few weeks. Enjoy the baby, be a good blogger and keep us updated!
Oh, you poor thing! Rest assured I have a stash of hugs reserved for you when you arrive in India. I'm at Svelte. Ring me when you get here and stay positive as you get ready for the best days of your life!!!
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